In honor of Valentines Day, Venus in Pisces and all things love this month; I thought it would be fun to share a little about wellness routines in my relationship as well as give you some ideas for how to cultivate and support fitness, nutrition and wellness practices in your own relationship.
ALLOW FOR INDIVIDUALITY
It would be pretty unusual for two partners to meet and be in the exact same place with their fitness, nutrition and wellness routines. My husband and I are both pretty set in our workout routines. I “book” myself a “session” in between clients for 45 minute strength training sessions Monday – Friday. I do a 5 day split following the same program I create for my clients. Elliott (my hubs) does 2 days of HIIT classes along with a 3 day split strength training program. Being fit is a shared value as well as a point of connection for us. We share stories about our workouts, talk about when we’re sore or if we did something new and exciting. We also make sure to always be encouraging and supportive of each other’s fitness!
But, what if you have different levels of desire to workout or are on different pages? I’ve seen so many people miserably following their partners workout, hating every second. Or the ones guilting or shaming their partner into doing a workout they do not want to do. Allowing for individuality helps both of you stay true to yourselves. Keep doing the workouts you love, but don’t pressure your partner into doing them too. High vibe, fit energy is attractive and it can inspire a partner to start working out. If not, you may have to accept they are not interested or just want to do their own thing. Either way, if fitness is important to you, make sure time and space for it is respected in your relationship.
CREATE HEALTHY RITUALS
Since as a culture we have so many rituals around cooking and eating, I thought it made sense to talk about creating nutrition based rituals in your relationship. As a couple, we divide and conquer as well as work together to make eating healthy easier. I plan the meals and make the grocery lists. But, grocery shopping is a “ritual” we do together. As we have evolved, cooking has too! Elliott cooks the majority of our weeknight dinners. He has dinner ready when I get home and always includes the essential side salad. We sit down together (sans electronics) and chat about our day over a healthy meal. From planning to shopping, to prepping and cooking, we have created rituals around our nutrition that connect us to each other and healthy eating!
Creating rituals within your routines helps you not only be consistent as a couple, it also makes being healthy more fun! Go to your favorite coffee shop together and grab a coffee before you head to the grocery store. Light candles and turn on music when you cook healthy dinners at home to make it more vibe-y. Explore blogs, cookbooks or join the Body by Emilee Weekly Meal Plan as a way to find new recipes and ideas for making healthy meals you both enjoy. You can also create rituals around different cuisines or meal types. There are so many ways to do a healthier Taco Tuesday or make an amazing weekend brunch at home. Talk with your partner and see what nutrition rituals feel authentic to you as a couple. It’s such a positive way to make eating healthy a lifestyle!
SHARED SACRED SPACE
How to create sacred space within shared space is an important topic I don’t think gets addressed enough. It is one thing to be solid in your spiritual practice and private wellness routines. But what happens when you are sharing space? When Elliott first moved in, it was really disruptive to my meditation practice. The space I used for meditation was the bedroom and when he moved in, I didn’t feel like I could meditate there anymore. I did a session with an astrologer who encouraged me to figure out a new spot to meditate in so I could reconnect to my practice. It started then and continues today; I meditate on our couch every morning. I incorporate music, crystals and sage or Palo Santo to make the space and experience feel sacred and spiritual.
How beautiful is this notion of creating the space you need to reset, reenergize and connect to yourself and offering the same to your partner? Whether that is journaling, meditating, carving out quiet (alone) time or connecting with nature. You and your partner will both feel so much more grounded, centered and supported. Being mindful and respecting each others needs around wellness routines is so important when you share space. I voice when I need to light candles and sit in a bath. Elliott will let me know when he wants to take a walk around the lake. We are intentional with the music we play, the art we display and what we choose to bring into our home. Through honoring your wellness routines as a couple, you can raise each other’s vibration and work together to create a high vibe space you both love living in!
I hope you found some of these suggestions helpful and that I gave you some new ideas for ways you can create a healthier lifestyle as a couple! As always, feel free to reach out to me at emileej@bodybyemilee if you have questions or would like to chat! Be sure and check out the IG reel we made to go along with this post too!
Much love! xo
EJ
