Happy Valentines Day babes! Such a fun day to celebrate the special people in your life and make them feel loved and appreciated. But, what about you? What do you do to celebrate YOU and show yourself some love?
You might be wondering…what’s that got to do with anything? What’s the big deal about self care and self love? If you’re lacking motivation, inspiration and struggling to live a healthy lifestyle, showing yourself a little more love might be just what you need!
Self care is about truly taking care of yourself, doing what feels true to you and operating from a place love. When you approach fitness, nutrition and healthy living from a place of love instead of a place of self loathing, deprivation, shaming and fear, it becomes more natural, more enjoyable and feels nourishing, energizing and empowering!
Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to look at how the choices you’re making and the way you treat/talk to yourself is positively or negatively impacting your lifestyle. Do you tell yourself you HAVE to go to the gym and workout because you’re fat, out of shape or don’t have a body like the fitness girls you follow on Instagram? Do you tell yourself you can’t eat “this” or have “that” because you are afraid of gaining weight? Do you stay in toxic, draining, shallow relationships because you’re scared of being alone?
If you are in a loving relationship with someone you wouldn’t say those things to them, treat them that way or encourage them to continue with the behaviors and relationships that are bringing them down. When you are in a loving relationship with yourself, you don’t hold space for or give your time, energy or thoughts to those things either. You don’t shame, compare or put yourself down when it comes to fitness and exercise. You move your body in a way that feels good and stay fit because it gives you energy! You don’t restrict, deprive or eat from a place of fear. You nourish your body with healthy, fresh, nutrient rich foods because they taste delicious and make you feel amazing! You don’t surround yourself with people who dump their negative energy on you and suck the positive out of your day. You spend your time with people who lift you up and make your heart happy! Show yourself some love babes! Everything you do for those you love; kind words of encouragement and support, forgiveness for mistakes, acceptance and appreciation for imperfections, pointing out, sharing and doing the things you know are unique and special to them. Self love is about doing these things FOR YOU!
Once you start treating yourself this way, your healthy lifestyle just falls into place! You will be amazed at how motivated and even excited you are to challenge your body, try new workouts and take your fitness to places you never imagined! All of sudden, those leafy greens and nutrient rich foods could not look more enticing or delicious and once you feel the difference…Healthy. Nutrition. Done. Follow your heart, be true to yourself and allow your bright, positive light to attract people who vibrate at the same high frequency to come into your life and build nurturing, supportive relationships!
Enough with negative self talk, playing small, ignoring needs, demeaning, disrespectful and destructive behavior. It’s time to learn what LOVE truly means and to not only show it to those around you, but to operate from a loving place and show it to YOU. You are meant to SHINE babes, share your love and big, beautiful, light in everything you do! xo
Walked out of the house this morning and forgot your lunch? Ducked out of the gym early because you couldn’t stay focused during your workout? In the middle of a conversation with your bestie when you realize you have no idea what she is talking about? Not being present has a huge impact not only on your fitness and nutrition, but also on your relationships, your job, and your well being.
It happens. It is easy to get distracted, lose focus or just go through your day on autopilot. Mindlessly eating whatever is convenient, easy and readily available, hopping on an elliptical machine and just going through the motions, zoning out during work meetings and conversations with family, coworkers and friends…not being present for anything or anyone, including yourself.
What if you decided to get dialed in and worked on being more present? Would it change what and how you ate, the way you worked out, your personal interactions and how focused, confident and happy you are? Think about what a difference being present and living in the moment would make. The positive impact it would have on everything in your life.
First, let’s talk about what “being present” means. Being present is simply being engaged physically, emotionally, and mentally in what is going on and what you are doing in this moment. Focusing on what you are doing, what or who is in front of you, right here, right now. What does a day of living present look like? How would it affect your nutrition, fitness, relationships, job, sense of contentment and happiness?
Imagine waking up and noticing how beautiful the sunlight coming in through the window is, how amazing a hug and kiss from your partner feels. Making a healthy, nutrient rich breakfast and savoring every bite. Conscientiously packing your bag for work, focusing to make sure you have everything you need, including your lunch, healthy snacks and gym clothes. Getting in your car and rather than texting or trying to read emails, paying attention to traffic and where you need to go. Sitting down in your office and organizing your day. Taking on one task at a time, giving it your complete concentration. Heading to the gym for an amazing workout. Paying attention to how hard you are working, what muscles you are using and how great it feels to be active. Stopping to chat with a friend on your way out, but rather than thinking about what you have to do when you get home, you listen to what she is saying, maybe she makes you laugh or you pick up on the cues that something is wrong. Either way you are engaged with her and what is going on. Afterwards, rather than mindlessly grabbing takeout or something on the go, heading home to make a healthy dinner filled with fresh veggies and lean protein. Noticing how delicious it tastes and how good eating healthy makes you feel. During dinner you are involved in the conversation, sharing, listening and truly hearing what everyone else has to say. What an amazing day…right? Nothing out of the ordinary happened, but you were able to connect to your life and fully enjoy and experience every moment!
Give it a try this week! Remove distractions, practice being mindful and present and see what happens! See how much better healthy food tastes, how easy it is to eat less of it and feel satisfied and how much your cravings for unhealthy foods decrease. See how much easier working out becomes, how much harder you’re able to push and how much better you feel afterwards. See how much more efficient, focused and effective you are at work. And finally, see how much less anxious and stressed you feel, how energized and clear headed you are. Watch how much your sleep and mood improve, how your sense of connection, compassion and contentment increase. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it makes. Truly, truly babes…being present is everything…xo
Not sure how to get started? Check out the links below for tips on how to be more present and start living more mindfully today!
Tis the season! The season for parties, shopping, decorating, celebrating, cocktails, cookies, gift giving, traveling as well as trying to balance everything else in your life…work, family, friends and oh yeah…health and fitness. I have definitely sensed the stress and pressure of the holiday season with my clients, friends and even with myself. The demand on our time, the disappointment of things not living up to our expectations, comparing ourselves on social media, missing workouts, indulging in too many treats, drinking too much, staying up late and not practicing good self care can lead to feelings of loneliness, depression, stress, lethargy and weight gain.
Thanksgiving weekend, I decided to make a list of all the things I could do to feel more balanced, energized and focused through the holidays. I wanted to be able to truly embrace and enjoy all the wonderful things about this time of year and not let myself get overwhelmed and feel stressed or sad. I wanted to keep a positive perspective and attitude and practice self care and love during this crazy busy time. I wanted to truly embody all BbE is about…living fit, eating healthy and being inspired!
Here is what I came up with…xo
6 WAYS TO FEEL MORE BALANCED, ENERGIZED & FOCUSED THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
1. Begin with a grateful heart…
Shift the focus away from what is missing in your life or the struggles you are having and instead appreciate everything wonderful, beautiful and amazing in your world. Take time everyday to be grateful for everything positive about your life. It truly makes a difference in your mood, your energy and the way you interact with those around you. We all have struggles, issues and areas in our life where we feel unfulfilled, dissatisfied and disappointed. Rather than letting your mind dwell on the negative, focus on all you have to be grateful for. Make a daily list of 5 things you appreciate, send someone a text and tell them how grateful you are for them or my favorite…find 10 minutes, a quiet space, breathe and meditate on all the things in your life that fill your heart with joy, peace and love.
2. Be in the moment…
We are living in a time of true distraction. Filling our days with multi-tasking, constant reminders, beeps and notifications from our cell phones, being over-scheduled and trying to squeeze more in than is humanly possible has left us depleted, distracted and overwhelmed. How do we get a handle on it, reconnect and live in the moment? Limiting social media to only a few times a week or only during certain times of the day can make a big difference. I have started putting my phone on airplane mode when I want to focus on work or whatever I am doing. Losing those technology distractions does make a difference. Truly, truly, unplug, focus and dial in to what is going on around you. Be mindful and aware. Listen, speak, eat, workout, work and live in the moment. You really will get more accomplished, feel more connected, organized and focused.
3. Stay fit…
You knew this was coming! But, honestly…nothing compares to working out when it comes to relieving stress and boosting energy. Get in as much of the sweaty, heart pumping, endorphin releasing, muscle working good stuff as you can! Schedule your workouts in your calendar and make them happen! Do whatever you can to stay active and fit. If you normally do an hour of cardio, but can only squeeze 30 minutes in; get those 30 minutes in and make them amazing! Take advantage of any free time you have and do a little extra to make up for workouts you might possibly miss. Sign up for some group fitness classes or get scheduled with a trainer. Having an appointment and walking into a session or class knowing someone else is going to make sure you get a challenging workout, definitely keeps you accountable and pushes your fitness!
4. Sleep it off…
Being physically tired and not getting enough sleep is one of the worst things you can do for you body, mind and spirit. Your body needs sleep to repair, regenerate and be ready to take on the next day. Lack of sleep not only makes you cranky, groggy and irritable, it can also increase your appetite and decrease your metabolism. Be sure you are getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep a night and taking care of that beautiful body. Your mind also needs a chance to shut down, recharge and relax. Getting enough sleep allows you to wake up refreshed, with a clear mind, energized and feeling positive! Shut down work, picking up the house and surfing social media early enough so you can unwind and take good care of yourself with plenty of sleep and downtime.
5. Feed your body…
The food and nutrients you put in your body can have a huge impact on your energy and mood. Be conscious of what you are indulging in and how it makes you feel. Having too many cocktails will not only wreak havoc with a hangover, it also disrupts your sleep, zaps your energy, depresses your mood and depletes your body of vitamins and minerals. Drinking more water and less alcohol will definitely keep you and the season merry and bright! Too much sugar can leave you feeling fatigued and nauseous. Filling your plate with rich, fatty foods can upset your stomach, increase your weight and decrease the efficiency of your muscles. You can enjoy the holidays and have fun at all of your events and celebrations and still feed your body healthy, nutrient rich foods. Find the veggies, lean protein and delicious foods that leave you feeling satisfied and energized versus tired and heavy. Only the best stuff for your beautiful body!
6. Nourish your soul…
Finally…practice amazing self care and love and indulge in the things that nourish your soul. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging, motivating people. Spend your time and energy doing what makes you feel inspired, happy and alive. When you are around your favorite people and doing what nourishes your soul, you can’t help but smile, laugh and glow! Find the things that speak to you, soothe your mind and feel authentic. It can be anything…reading a book, meeting a friend for coffee, taking a bath, getting a massage, going to yoga, listening to music, looking at art or cooking a fabulous, healthy meal. You can even take it a step further and share your strengths. Be generous and share your time and energy with those around you. Volunteer for a cause that touches your heart, take time to listen to a friend, do something helpful or positive for someone else or just be there for someone who needs you. Sharing your amazing-ness will feed your soul with even more positive energy. Pamper yourself, indulge in what you love and take time to be around those who build you up and make you feel lively, blessed and blissful!